Time To Vent

Ok, seriously, if you’re not in the mood right now to hear someone bitch, I suggest you look away. Read no further.

Now that you’ve had sufficient warning, those of you still reading must be beggin’ for some bitchin’. ;)

I appologise for the following; I don’t do it often, but sometimes things just keep adding up and festering in my mind for weeks and I finally reach a boiling point and SNAP. In no particular order, these types of people are currently driving me insane (amongst other types that don’t even need to be named, such as terrorists, murderers in general, and all of the other horrible human types there are out there that we all can’t stand):

People who are lazy and have no intention of pulling their lives out the rut they’re in, but would rather blame everyone/everything else around them and let others lend their time and money, with little or no thanks in return, and no lesson learned. No “This is what I needed to get back on my feet and now I can not only help myself, but help others who are in the situation I was in”. No, they just use up the resources people worked so hard to provide to help them out, and end up back in the same rut they were in before; endless cycle. Eternally frustrating. Perhaps it’s the hardcore Republican in me, who knows, but I can’t stand that sort of living/thinking. ;)

People who feel entitled to things they haven’t earned. Now this category includes spoiled kids, most Americans in general, and criminals, mostly thieves. I don’t understand these people at all. Where do they think the things they get/steal come from? Don’t they realize someone has worked really hard, invested time, money, emotion, etc into attaining these things? What makes them able to simply say, “well, I really want that, so I should have it”, without a thought for the person who worked so hard to get it in the first place?

Parents who cover for their kids mistakes or shortcomings by becoming rediculously defensive rather than helping their children out by teaching them the right way to act; the proper thing to do or say. I’m sure every American teacher hears me on this one. We Americans, especially, are notorious for this and it needs to stop. The kids of these types of parents really frighten me because they are never going to learn to own up to or fix their own mistakes. They’ll learn they can get away with whatever they want and justify their actions with excuses or lies; the most likely one being that they had a rough childhood/bad parenting. What a slap in the face that’ll be to those parents who thought they were helping their kid by “being a friend” to them. Kids have friends their age. What they need are parents who are willing to act like parents. Parents who are willing to put their foot down regardless of the contempt, the anger they face from their children at the time. Parents who know that, yes, they have to be the “bad guy” a LOT of the time, but that it will help their children to have that strong guide, that leadership in their lives, and that appreciation comes with time and maturity.

People who aren’t willing to own up to their mistakes or intentional bad deeds. You hear it all the time, even when undeniable evidence points to the contrary, “It wasn’t me. I didn’t do it.”. Now a lot of this stems from the bad parenting mentioned in the prior category. It’s a human instinct to not want to take the blame when we make a mistake, but that’s what parenting is supposed to help out with. Our job as parents is to prepare our kids to interact with the society we live in. It sounds cliche, but that’s what the golden rule is for. My parents made sure that one of the biggest points they taught us as kids was to treat others as we would want to be treated. Their constant question to us was, “How would that make you feel?”. We were taught to ask ourselves that question before we did anything that might affect another person, and I wish every other parent would do the world a favor and do the same.

On the other end of the “not willing to own up to things” problem are the people who, to me, are just as frustrating. I got a taste of this just this morning. These are the people who are willing to take credit for someone else’s efforts. Most of us had experience with these people when we had to work on team projects in school, and I’m not too proud to admit that at times I was one of these people in high school. They do little to nothing, compared to what everyone else puts in, and gladly sit back and take in the glory, rather than admitting their slight contribution, or even just giving a polite little shout out; “Thanks for the praise, but really, so-and-so deserves most of the credit, they worked their ass off and put in the financial and emotional contribution.” Not so hard is it? Being on the other end, I’ve certainly learned my lesson.
Ok, the list definitely goes on, but I don’t want to put my readers into a funk, especially this time of year, so that’ll be it for now. Hopefully we won’t see another installment of the Heather Bitch Fest for quite some time. Thanks for letting me vent though. I do feel a bit lot better. :)

3 Responses to “Time To Vent”

  1. 1 Memere

    Honey, I hear you. Unfortunately, the folks who really, truly need to hear are not listening.

    Stay true to yourself. Continue being the awesome friend, wife, and parent that you are.

    Lots of love and hugs to you!

  2. 2 Dorothy van Winkle

    my dear girl, what triggered your lament? anything in particular or just things in general that havea gone too far? You certainly described Matt, formerly known as our son. and yes, every teacher thanks you for parenting your children. how did you become so wise so young? keep up all your great work. the hardest job in the world is being a real parent. love to the mother of two who will become perfect adults. dot

  3. 3 Carole

    Sorry I’m a bit late weighing in, but I can get behind you on all those points. I especially hate people whose parents constantly make excuses for their children’s shortcomings. They are not doing anything to help their child grow. These people then become the adults you spoke of who cannot own up to any mistakes, the “it’s not my fault” kind of people.

    We all have days when we need to unload, so go ahead and do it whenever you feel the need… just don’t let it get you down. Until then remember the proverb that says, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries up the bones.”

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